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August 25, 2017

Don’t Be Like Me- Personal

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Where were you during the eclipse of 2017?


I was inside my house editing wedding photos and refilling my prescriptions.


Here’s what happened:

We’ve been hearing nothing else but eclipse that, eclipse this, for about a month solid, right? How you need to get the glasses, you need to see it because it won’t happen again in our lifetime, you need to be so super excited, blah blah blah.

Well, I heard all that stuff. And I saw people getting glasses at the store. And I heard people posting Facebook statuses in desperation two days before because all the glasses were sold out everywhere. And I kind of had the attitude of “eclipse, shmeclipse.”


I don’t know. I don’t know why I didn’t care. Probably because I’ve always been late to catch onto trends. Or because I don’t like being the same way or doing the same things that everyone else does. And then I realize that in my defiance of being like everyone else, I’m going to miss out on something really cool.

And then I go into panic mode.

I don’t want to miss out on cool stuff!!!! Had I known how cool it was going to be, I wouldn’t have been so hard headed about not participating.

But now it’s too late. And I’ve missed whatever cool thing was happening.

So I guess I’ll just work and do adult stuff.

Don’t be like me.

It’s ok to like pumpkin spice lattes and fresh cut flowers and wish your best friend was Taylor Swift- if that’s who you truly are. But if that’s not who you are, don’t be afraid to be different. Don’t force yourself to stand out or force yourself to blend in. You do you in whatever form that is.

I like black coffee and fake greenery that looks real and wish Jimmy Fallon was my best friend. I don’t care for the color pink, I love blue. I want a small house that’s built just for me and has hardly any decor other than photos on the walls and (fake) green plants on every surface, not a large open floor plan with a modern farmhouse style that looks like Joanna Gaines transformed it.

I think sometimes I feel the need to resist going along with the crowd, because I feel like everyone just flows with it. I’ve been taught in every business education class and article and webinar, to find what makes you stand out and market the crap out of it. People will love you and want you because of it. Because in a sea of hundreds of wedding photographers, you are you, and that’s your superpower.

So when everyone was talking and posting and breathing the eclipse, my natural reaction was to reject it and be the one person in the entire world who didn’t care.

But you know what? I did care. And sometimes I like pumpkin spice lattes. And I might not know what any flowers are, but I like when I have some in a mason jar on my kitchen table. And I bet Taylor Swift is a pretty cool person to hang out with. And that’s ok. I’m still me. And I still own that super power.

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