I'm a lover of love who is addicted to Starbucks and goes through weekly phases of favorite foods. I'm a wifey to a firefighter and a dogmom to a grumpy Whippet. I love having lunch dates and dream of traveling the world.
I recently had a conversation with a potential client. In the course of talking with this person, they mentioned how they’re going through some financial difficulties and it’s kind of bad timing to be faced with paying for a wedding. They also mentioned that they found another photographer who would be able to shoot the wedding for $900.
Needless to say, they did not hire me. But you know what? For the first time in a long time, I had absolutely no hard feelings about it. I didn’t take it personal, and I truly meant it when I wished them the best on the wedding day.
I used to take rejection very personal. And how could I not? My business is like my baby. I put a ton of hard work and effort into it, and for someone to tell me it’s not good enough for them, well, it hurts.
But I’ve learned a lot over the years. And one of those things I’ve learned is that it really truly isn’t a personal rejection. When I choose one brand of clothing over another, or drive past one restaurant to eat at another, it’s nothing personal. In fact, I do this to fellow photographers when I choose someone to take my yearly headshots or shoot my annual anniversary session. The person is chosen, simply because I have to choose.
In my personal bible study, I’ve realized that in the end, what I do in my career doesn’t matter. There are bigger issues and bigger purposes. When I stop viewing my business as a life and death situation, things get easier to deal with. Rejection gets easier to deal with. The fact that I don’t have 20,000 followers on Instagram or 3,000 fans on Facebook gets easier to deal with. When I post a great photo and it barely gets seen. Or I ask a question on social media and only one person answers- if that. It just doesn’t matter. I know that the clients I have love me and love my work, and I’m taking great care of them! That’s what matters. I know that I’m making a name with God and that as long as I have good motives and a good heart, that’s what matters.
So if you’re dealing with some sort of rejection, or not feeling good enough, or thinking that you’re not keeping up with someone else, just remember: it’s not personal. You do you and let the rest of the world watch.
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