What it’s Like on the Other Side

I’ve been helping my sister plan her wedding, and it’s been quite the experience! Wedding planning is something I did over 10 years ago, so it almost feels like the first time again.

Of course, in those ten years, wedding trends have changed. But even more than that, I feel like the experience of planning itself has changed! Just like how there are craft breweries popping up all over the place, I feel like there craft wedding vendors too. Vendors who are reinventing the wedding industry and catering to couples in ways that show it’s not just about making money.

Speaking of vendors…

I’ve learned that searching for wedding vendors can be an extremely daunting task. I’ve researched people based on others recommendations, but sometimes even that is overwhelming. I used to think that a lot of different options were good, but I’ve come to discover maybe it’s not such a good thing.

Comparison shopping is also something I grew to understand more. I used to get upset when potential couples would reach out to me and only want pricing info. I’m so much more than just a dollar sign. And the experience I give my couples is so much more than a dollar sign. But sometimes, it really honestly only comes down to the price. I’ve learned that wedding planning is one big giant game of balance. You get your top three vendors that you’ve prioritized for, and then the rest of the vendors you choose becomes based on how you’re splitting up the rest of the budget. So when you get down to those last few, the decision on whether or not to book someone might simply be about who will provide what you want at for most affordable amount.

The stress!

I’ve also learned that wedding planning is stressful and kinda chaotic at times. There are so many opinions and ideas coming at you from every angle. And it’s even more stressful when you don’t know exactly what it is that you want. I guess it goes back to the being overwhelmed aspect. When there are too many options and you don’t have a clear picture in your mind of the option you want, it seems like an impossible task.

But probably the most valuable lesson I’ve learned (at the risk of sounding cheesy,) is the lesson of love. It’s not just the bride’s wedding. It’s not just the bride’s family who decides things. The wedding day is about two people, two families. Setting aside your opinions and the way YOU think the wedding should go is so so so important. What matters most is the marriage, not the wedding. After the day is over and you’re settling into married life, what you have left is the foundation you’ve built with your spouse. So throughout the whole wedding planning journey, make sure you’re planning it all with love!

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